Some Myths About Domestic Violence

There have been many, so-called, “facts” concerning domestic violence. These “statistics” have been told so many times, that some people have actually started believing these statistics. However, based on my sources, which I have cited, these statistics are either outright lies, or they are missing some vital information that has been excluded.

One study of Mexican men who valued independence and dominance found that the men were less likely to resort to partner aggression.{Kantor K, Jasnski JL, Aldarondo E. Sociocultural status and incidence of marital violence in Hispanic families. Violence and Victims Vol. 9, 1994. pp. 207-222.}

One review shows that when making a comparison between women’s and men’s use of controlling behaviors, the research had concluded, using non-selected samples, discovered that there is no difference in their overall use.{Graham-Kevan N. Power and control in relationship aggression. In Hamel J and Nicholls TL (eds.): Family Interventions in Domestic Violence. New York: Springer Publishing Co., 2007.}

By using meta-analysis of statistics on several studies involving traditional gender attitudes and partner assault, they found no consistent link between gender attitudes and partner assault.{Sugarman DB, Frankel SL. Patriarchal ideology and wife-assault: A meta-analytic review. Journal of Family Violence Vol. 17, 1996. pp. 13-40.}
{Felson RB, Outlaw MC. The control motive and marital behavior. Violence and Victims, Vol. 22, No. 4, 2007. pp. 387 – 407.}

A study conducted in 32 nations throughout the world documented a connection between dominance and physical aggression. However, the connection was discovered that there was a stronger connection for female-initiated violence than male-initiated violence. {Straus MA. Dominance and symmetry in partner violence by male and female university students in 32 nations. Children and Youth Services Review Vol. 30, 2008. pp. 252-275.}

Of course, this means that there is no such thing as a patriarchy, or patriarchy dominance. That is because the existence of female-initiated violence cannot exist in a, so called, patriarchal system.

So, yet again, I have demonstrated that THERE IS NO PATRIARCHY. But, yet, I am sure that many people will say that it exists. In my opinion, and in my experience, this is because those people who insist that there is a patriarchy, FEEL that it exists. Whereas, those who have examined the evidence rationally and objectively do not see it because there is nothing to see.

(To be honest, this is not where this post was supposed to go, I will continue this in my next post)


5 Legal Rights Women Have But Men Do Not

This is inspired by Janet Bloomfield.

OK. We have been told by the feminists that feminism is all about equality. Now, I have never believed that since the 1980’s. And I would hope that no man believes that either.

In my opinion, feminism is a hate group. It really is against men, and even the white knights are going to be crucified if feminism has their way.

I have been involved with the men’s movement, AKA the men’s rights movement, AKA taken the red pill, etc. But I digress. If we compare our relative rights, we find, in my opinion, that the five more important rights that women have, men do not. And if feminism were really about equality, then it would be very easy to alleviate the imbalance. But, of course, the feminists have been silent about these rights.

Women have the right to not have circumcision.

Now, there have been all kinds of news over the past few decades about female circumcision. And how female circumcision is cruel, evil, and barbaric. And while I agree that female circumcision sound pretty bad to me, what about the male newborn children.

Really, how many men out there who are of my generation (Fifty Years-Old) have been circumcised? You, like me, have had our genitals mutilated because Kellogg, the Corn Flakes guy, claimed that it would reduce the chance of the boy from masturbating

A remedy for masturbation which is almost always successful in small boys is circumcision. The operation should be performed by a surgeon without administering an anesthetic, as the brief pain attending the operation will have a salutary effect upon the mind, especially if it be connected with the idea of punishment. In females, the author has found the application of pure carbolic acid to the clitoris an excellent means of allaying the abnormal excitement.”

Also, there is some small risk to male circumcision, as more than 100+ male newborns die as a result of their circumcision.

 So, women keep their genitals intact, and many infant boys have their genitals mangled.

Women have the right to vote without having to go to war.

 In the united states, everyone who has survived for eighteen years has their constitutional right to vote. But, a woman is allowed to vote for just having survived for eighteen years, whereas a man must register for selective service.

While women have the option to enter into the military, they do not have to register for selective service. However, if a man chooses to not register for selective service, he cannot vote, he cannot get college grants. While I have never had a selective service card, since I was in the military for a bunch of years, I don’t even think than a man without having registered for selective service can even go to college in the United States.

So, a women can vote with no obligations of any sort, while a man must register for the draft, and possibly get killed or wounded severely.

Women have the right to choose parenthood.

A women may, by her choice, abort the child, give the child up for adoption, surrender the infant under the Safe Haven Laws and walk away from all obligations and responsibility, or she can keep the child. All of these options are legal and moral.

Men have no such options. If a woman decides to be a parent, the man has no choice in the matter. He will often need to financially support that child for at least eighteen years. And as long a man has been identified as the father, he will be held accountable.

Paternity fraud is legal. And in no state in the United States is it legally permitted to surrender paternity of the child unless the woman has been express agreement.

Thus, women may choose parenthood. Men may not.

Women have the right to be assumed as being the caregivers for children.

 When a man and a women divorce, in my opinion and observation, the woman almost always wins. And in the divorce, the woman gets primary custody in 82.6% of custody cases. Additionally:

  • 43% of U.S. children live without their father (U.S. Bureau of the Census).
  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and U.S. Bureau of the Census).
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (U.S. Bureau of the Census).
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes (Center for Disease Control).
  • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26).
  • 71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services press release, March 26, 1999).
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools).
  • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Rainbows for All God’s Children).
  • 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988).
  • 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Department of Corrections, 1992).

 So tell me, why and how this has happened? Is it a pro-female perspective by the judges? Is it an anti-male perspective by the judges? Is there really a war against men?

You would have to be daft to imagine that some people have it in for men, given that 82.6% statistic, above. But, nevertheless, Women win and men lose in most divorces.

Women have the right to name unwanted, coerced sexual intercourse as rape.

According to the FBI, “The new definition of rape is: “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”

However, even though the FBI can include some men, that “new and improved[sic]” definition still uses the term penetration. But approximately 50% of men have also been raped, although the definition by the FBI will not include most of the men who have been legitimately raped.

Additionally, the definition from The National Intimate And Sexual Violence Survey has defined rape differently, it defines the types of assault as different and distinct. And by collecting information under two separate categories, according to the legal definition, women have the right to name their rape as rape. Men do not have that right.

What Do Men Do For A Job

Looking at the government’s bureau of labor statistics, I was looking for statistics on employment. However, the statistics for men could only be derived through the jobs that women do. Yes, really! In order to get information from the, I need to look at the totals, and subtracting women, to get the men.

Now as far as I am willing to read, the most important jobs that women have is being a Nurse Practitioner, with 72.8% being females. looking down further on the list, I see that 59.2% of women are working in Payroll And Timekeeping Clerks.


Now lets take a look at the male-jobs. However, I will be looking ONLY at those jobs for which greater than 99% of the jobs men work:

  1. Cement masons, concrete finishers, and terrazzo workers 100.00%
  2. Natural resources, construction, and maintenance occupations 99.96%
  3. Construction and extraction occupations 99.96%
  4. Installation, maintenance, and repair occupations 99.91%
  5. Management, professional, and related occupations 99.90%
  6. Production, transportation, and material moving occupations 99.87%
  7. Driver/sales workers and truck drivers 99.84%
  8. First-line supervisors of fire fighting and prevention workers 99.82%
  9. Transportation and material moving occupations 99.82%
  10. Professional and related occupations 99.82%
  11. Sales and office occupations 99.81%
  12. Management, business, and financial operations occupations 99.80%
  13. Pipelayers, plumbers, pipefitters, and steamfitters 99.80%
  14. Automotive service technicians and mechanics 99.79%
  15. Service occupations 99.78%
  16. Construction laborers 99.76%
  17. Management occupations 99.76%
  18. Electricians 99.75%
  19. Bus and truck mechanics and diesel engine specialists 99.74%
  20. Heavy vehicle and mobile equipment service technicians and mechanics 99.72%
  21. Heating, air conditioning, and refrigeration mechanics and installers 99.68%
  22. Sales and related occupations 99.68%
  23. First-line supervisors of construction trades and extraction workers 99.66%
  24. Production occupations 99.66%
  25. Roofers 99.65%
  26. Grounds maintenance workers 99.64%
  27. Operating engineers and other construction equipment operators 99.60%
  28. Office and administrative support occupations 99.58%
  29. Drywall installers, ceiling tile installers, and tapers 99.52%
  30. Architecture and engineering occupations 99.49%
  31. Brickmasons, blockmasons, and stonemasons 99.46%
  32. Tool and die makers 99.43%
  33. Computer and mathematical occupations 99.34%
  34. Food preparation and serving related occupations 99.33%
  35. Protective service occupations 99.32%
  36. Building and grounds cleaning and maintenance occupations 99.31%
  37. Home appliance repairers 99.23%
  38. Welding, soldering, and brazing workers 99.20%
  39. Business and financial operations occupations 99.17%
  40. Managers, all other 99.15%
  41. Education, training, and library occupations 99.14%
  42. Maintenance and repair workers, general 99.13%
  43. Construction managers 99.11%
  44. Automotive body and related repairers 99.10%
  45. Healthcare practitioners and technical occupations 99.09%
  46. Electrical power-line installers and repairers 99.05%
  47. Crane and tower operators 99.02%

Now, if you notice, a great many of those jobs are important or dangerous. And for whatever reason, women, in general, choose not to work in those positions. Also, those positions listed generally pay more money. However, women could work in those jobs if they really want to, but they generally don’t, for some reason.


Again, that is only the top 1% of mostly male jobs.

If you are feeling bad about yourself, you need only look at the statistics and note that while you may not be in the top 1% of male jobs, you very likely work in a job that is either dangerous, takes a great deal of time, or extremely toward keeping our society running smoothly as possible. So, have yourself a good day, and realize that you are surrounded by other men that generally feel the same you feel.



Men As Men

We all know that men are very different from women. And for some reasons, over the past forty years, through feminists, men have been demonized. Even the “white knights” have been demonized, because they are still men.

And though times are very different today when compared to the past, men still go out and work in dangerous jobs in order to “bring home the bacon” to the women. In the past we were hunters, in the present we work in corporate environments, work as truck drivers, and even the “safe” jobs are “mostly” safe, when the shit hits the fan in any job, a man is, generally, throw himself and die if a woman is in trouble.

Men know that a man is disposable. He is expected to protect women, to suffer all kinds of hardships, to, if necessary, kill another man for a woman, and even die for a woman. But a man, in my opinion, is terrified of his tenderness and his mortality. And I also believe that men fear that potential of what he has been programmed to do in the service of others.

A man’s mind, conscious and unconscious is, generally, to what his extent has not been feminized, centered in logic, objective reason and in will. This has resulted in men being somewhat moody and a lack of skill in dealing with emotions.

Now, the he is often portrayed as being dominant, cruel, and sadistic. However, in my opinion, this is a result in being logical, rational, and willful. And people who label them as being dominant, sadistic, and cruel do not understand him.

A man’s defining virtue is power, and his controlling fear is being impotent.

As men, we strive for freedom, self-definition, and independence. As a result of that, we are controlled by an obedience to authority and by having to admit that we need help. And that, in my opinion, is why men generally do not go to a hospital until it is too late.

Men may freely express our anger, but we are never allowed to cry, to show tears. Men also feel grief and melancholy and that is what causes men depression, and sometimes suicide.

Men are supposed to be brave, aggressive, courageous, and daring. But men are supposed to suppress our fears and our shyness.

Men’s bailiwick, our spheres of action and control, is within the public and the political. This has resulted in men abandoning familiar, closely intimate or personal, and the domestic.

Men have been programmed by society to be extroverted, practical, focused, linear thinkers, goal and action oriented; and at our worst, we tend to be rigid and obsessive.

As men, we assume a great responsibility and are have a super responsibility and a Promethean guilt. This has resulted in men being arrogant and pride throughout our lives.

Essentially, men seem to have been programmed with some qualities that do have some downsides. However, that is the way that men have been evolved over millions of years. However, I am not, in any way, shape, or form, picking on men. Rather, I choose to celebrate my manhood, and everything that it implies. And fuck the feminists that do not like the way men are. We have been programmed in this particular manner so that we could protect the women. However, if some women have demonized men, then I think that we should let them be and do not render them any assistance, even to their detriment.

However, some, but not all, of the programming that I have been given for millions of years I think we should get rid of those programs we have been running.

For me, I do not feel like helping a woman in trouble. If women can do anything that a man can do, the she can defend herself, she can put out the garbage, she can clean the litterbox and pick up the dog shit every day because I have to do it.

Men are moral agents. However, for the most part, women are not moral agents. Forget that nonsense. I will never allow a woman to not behave as a moral agent again. And for the past seventeen months, I have treated as if women had moral agency.

There are some other things I would like to work on, but I shall keep them to myself for now.


Inspired by “Fire In The Belly” by Sam Keen.



On Male Suicide

Yesterday, on 21 September 2014, I had attended an “out of the darkness walk” in Fargo, North Dakota. It is, essentially, designed to let people know that we should be aware of suicides and is about awareness and prevention of suicides.

Now, I know some important fact about suicides: More men than women commit suicide. Not only that, very many more men than women commit suicide every year. Furthermore, many returning veterans commit suicide. I really don’t understand the reasons, but all I know that someone that was in the Iraq/Afghanistan conflicts is at a greater risk for committing suicide than any other group in the United States.

Now, I wish to compare the death-by-suicide statistics when comparing women with men:

Now, amongst all age groups, 32,533 people committed suicide. 6711 females compared to 25,848 men killed themselves. Really, the difference is astounding. Thus for every women that killed herself, 3.85 men killed himself. For whatever reason, men are killing themselves all over the place, when compared to women. And the lowest age group is from 5-14 years old where 3 boys kill himself for every girl kills herself, and the greatest age group is age 75+ where every woman that commits suicide 5.810 men kill himself.


suicide statistics

Additionally, the veteran suicides is approximately twice as common than a non-veteran.

But why are so many killing themselves? It is certainly not because men are in charge, since if we were, then we wouldn’t be killing ourselves. In a way, I think it mat be because we are starting to despair, to lose hope. Men have been demonized for forty years, and many men only know that gynocentric society that seems to hate men. If that is not why men are killing themselves as often as we do, it has got to be a factor.

Another thing I wish to mention is that many suicides are never called suicides. A woman will leave a note, take a bunch of pills, and always leave an “out” to be rescued, for the most part. However, men generally know what to do, and some unknown number of suicides have been called something else: an automobile accident, drowning, going out and getting killed by cops (AKA suicide by cops), and getting involved in some seemingly risky behavior to disguise that the real intent was suicide. However, that is just my opinion in my experience.

However, a more set of suicide statistics is here.

Now, recently, Robin Williams committed suicide. It was probably, in my opinion, a very brave act, due to the fact he was very recently diagnosed with Parkinson’s, and all that implies.


Rhea M. Whitehead

Some people will tell us that women were oppressed, historically. We have been told that “back in the day” very few, if any, women went to college, and if they did, the majors were in housekeeping, sandwich making, or having children.

And, I have said that that impression was total bullshit!

Do any of the feminists know about judge Rhea M. Whitehead? She was a presiding member of the Superior Court of Seattle in 1921, in Seattle, Washington.


Yes, I said 1921, Nineteen-Twenty-One, and she ruled on the case in favor of the man.

So, the first thing was that there were several prominent judges back before World War II. Because she was a judge, that implies that she was previously an attorney. Now, this woman had gone to college and had attained becoming an attorney, and she had distinguished herself by becoming a judge.

So, how does the “oppression of women” thing work if there were attorneys, judges, and professional people back before feminism? It seems to me that that myth has been shattered, yet again. Judge Rhea Whitehead is but one person who was never oppressed, she had actually campaigned against alimony.

[“The Woman Judge Who Gives Husbands A Square Deal – She Is Introducing a Novel Procedure In Seattle Where Tears and Sentiment Carry No Weight and Women Are Not Regarded Today as ‘Helpless and Dependent Children,’” syndicated, Fort Wayne Journal-Gazette (In.), Jun. 26, 1921, sec. 4, p. 1]

So, tell me again and again how women were historically oppressed, given the contrary evidence I have just presented?



Some additional quotes:

“The attitude of these women jurists is a step forward,” he said. “At the present time I am urging Mayor John F. Hylan of New York City to appoint a committee to act as arbiters of domestic difficulties. In my opinion there are many cases of marital discord which could be patched up by keeping them out of court. A court is a court whether it is a domestic relations-tribunal or not. It has the flavor and also the opprobrium. Women go before a judge, become hysterical, permit their imaginations to run riot and the damage is done. Reconciliation becomes remote. And the husband hasn’t a chance when the excited wife begins to weep. I advocate that this committee be formed where women’s tears would not be effective nor necessary, but where proceedings without publicity could settle the differences and send the quarrelsome couple home together. It is the instinctive prejudice that men feel toward a woman’s court that embitters a man against his wife who has him apprehended, because he fears that he cannot even hope for a fair and impartial judgment.”

Judge Whitehead is not the only woman jurist who holds the attitude that “playing the sex” is no business for the courtroom. Judge Florence E. Allen of the Court of Common Pleas, Cleveland, Ohio, speaking before the Women Lawyers’ Association, deplored the tendency of men jurors to render verdicts in favor of women litigants on sentimental grounds, whether the woman be the accused or accuser. It recalls the famous instance in New York City where the court ordered a curtain draped in front of the shapely ankles of Betty Inch. Because the men jurors seemed to concentrate their attention on the tears rather than on the testimony.

“In my court,” declares Judge Whitehead, “men and women will stand equal. That a woman is a dependent, helpless creature is an outworn notion, and I have absolutely no patience with a woman who comes into my court charging her husband with non-support merely to have the law make him stand and deliver. Some masculine judges are so sentimental that they often enter judgments against husbands without even giving the defendant a chance to be heard.”

Every dog has his day and even that of the poor, overburdened, wife-ridden husband appears to have arrived at last. The time-honored combination of a woman’s tears and a sympathetic masculine judge has been shattered. A woman is the iconoclast. She is Judge Rhea M. Whitehead, presiding member of the Superior Court of Seattle.

“A husband is going to get a square deal in my court,” she announced to the world. “Too many men are convicted on sobby tales of wives!”



Prostate Cancer Versus Breast Cancer

Looking at the statistics by The CDC (Center for Disease Control) we can see that amongst women the top three cancers are:

  • Breast Cancer 122.0/100,000
  • Lung Cancer 52.0/100,000
  • Colorectal Cancer 34.9/100,000

And that the top three leading causes of death due to cancer are:

  • Lung Cancer 37.0/100,000
  • Breast Cancer 21.5/100,000
  • Colorectal Cancer 12.8/100,000

Now looking at the men, we have the top three cancers are:

  • Prostate Cancer 128.3/100,000
  • Lung Cancer 73.0/100,000
  • Colorectal Cancer 46.1/100,000

And that the top thee leading causes of death due to cancer are:

  • Lung Cancer 57.9/100,000
  • Prostate Cancer 20.8/100,000
  • Colorectal Cancer 18.1/100,000

Now, just looking at these statistics, we can see that more men contract cancer, and die because of their cancer, than women. And even though slightly more women die from breast cancer than men die from prostate cancer, there are slightly more men that contract prostate cancer than women contract breast cancer. So, in other words, more men get prostate cancer than women get breast cancer. So where is all the money going?

Of course we all realize that all the money is going to breast cancer, with only a pittance for prostate cancer. According to, just by the federal government, breast cancer research is approximately 16.5 billion dollars each year, whereas prostate cancer is funded approximately 11.9 billion dollars each year. Well, aside from that, you cannot use a search engine and see private businesses and foundation for funding breast cancer, but you see much less private funding for prostate cancer.

So, even though breast cancer and prostate cancer are approximately equal in terms of contraction as well as death, most of the money goes to breast cancer. (and, yes, I know that men can, and do, get breast cancer, but I am choosing to ignore that issue for the sake of my argument, since the probability of getting breast cancer, for a man, is somewhat small.) For the most part, breast cancer is a women’s issue and prostate cancer is a men’s issue. And, in general, we have forgotten, again, about the men.

For Barbie, October is a month to behold. Pink. Pink everywhere. Pink balloons, ribbons, bridges, buildings, and professional sports equipment, all to raise awareness about breast cancer.

I terms of federal funding and awareness, it’s all about breasts, with very little, if any, mention of the prostate. And having spent some time in non-governmental sources, I have seen that:

In fiscal year 2009, breast cancer research received $872 million worth of federal funding, while prostate cancer received $390 million. It is estimated that fiscal year 2010 will end similarly, with breast cancer research getting $891 million and prostate cancer research receiving $399 million.

Now, in November, men have, since 2004, been encouraged to grow a mustache in the battle for prostate awareness and funding. I would suggest that you visit the website to register for movember and support prostate cancer research, awareness, and funding.

So, we have seen that there is an inequity with to breast cancer and prostate cancer. And while I have no idea how to address the issue other than to make other people that prostate cancer is as serious a matter as breast cancer. If it requires to speak out, if you can, I would suggest that you speak out loud and clear, as I do when I have the opportunity. In my behavior, when I am accosted by people who attempt to shame me to donate for breast cancer, I simply ask “what about prostate cancer” if I get a blank look, or if they try to tell me that breast cancer is more important than breast cancer, I get to educate them.


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